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I can and do keep some hurtful stuff to myself. I can be blunt and to the point, but I also think before blurting something out. People who say things and follow it with “Just Kidding”, are not joking, they fully intended to say it.

Personality types like extroverts, think out loud, and what comes to mind is spoken. As children, extroverts are often misunderstood. It appears they are asking questions they do or should know the answer to. They are just thinking out loud and we don’t have to answer everything.

When we become aware of who we are, we can then see others for who they are. So different but so alike.  If we spent as much time loving each other as we do judging each other, this planet would be a whole different experience.

We can’t change the world. However as we change, the changes also affect those around us. Today let’s start by paying it forward.


One day at a time

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An axiom of recovery is “One day at a time.”

This does not mean that we just live for today and don’t give a thought to the future. That’s a far cry from sober thought, and it is the kind of irresponsible thinking that lead to chemical use.

Responsible planning for the future is part of sobriety. “One day at a time” means that we don’t take on anything today that we can’t do anything about today. We don’t waste valuable time worrying about something that is out of our hands.

Assume you have an important exam coming up that you must pass to get a license. Before you take the exam, worrying is constructive because you can study instead of whiling away your time. However, after the exam, when you must wait for the results, worrying is destructive. All the worrying in the world will not affect the result.

You may think, “What do I do if I fail the exam?” That’s where we say, “One day at a time”. You will have time to cross that bridge if you have to. If you spend time in “constructive worrying”- that is, preparation before the exam- there will be little need to worry afterward.

Do what you can today, but if something is out of your hands, turn it over to a Higher Power. You’ll be less exhausted, as well as happier and sober.

R 😉

Tradition One

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Tradition One – “Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. Unity.”

The unity of Alcoholics Anonymous it the most cherished quality our Society has. Our lives, the lives of all to come, depend squarely upon it.

We stay whole, or A.A. dies.

Without unity, the heart of A.A. would cease to beat; our world arteries would no longer carry the life-giving grace of God; His gift to us would be spent aimlessly. Back again in their caves, alcoholics would reproach us and say, “What a great thing A.A. might have been!”


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While praying sincerely, we still may fall into temptation. We form ideas as to what we think God’s will is for other people. We say to ourselves, “This one ought to be cured of his fatal malady” or “That one ought to be relieved of his emotional pain,” and we pray for these specific things.

Such prayers, of course, are fundamentally good acts, but often they are based upon a

supposition that we know God’s will for the person for whom we pray.

This means that side by side with an earnest prayer there can be a certain amount of presumption and conceit in us.

It is A.A.’s experience that partially in these cases we ought to pray that God’s will, whatever it is, be done for others as well as for ourselves.

12 & 12, p. 104

Self image

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There are so many of us who have grown up with a very damaged self images. Some of us came from dysfunctional homes and some of us didn’t. It doesn’t seem to matter where we learned such a low self image of ourselves, we just have it and hate or dislike ourselves.

Some of us are willing to seek a spiritual way of living and grow toward unlearning that BS (belief system) and some of us hang on with claw marks. When we have such low images of self we seem to believe we are not worthy of good things in our lives. We allow people to treat us like we think we deserve, we attract those people to us. We harm ourselves with cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, food, risky behaviour, bad destructive relationships, etc.

If and when we come to the end of ourselves and have little spark of hope that we can change, we can set aside what we believe, what we think we know and live with an open mind around others doing the same.It is amazing when we begin to change and grow toward what we were meant to be. Giving freely of ourselves and helping others, we see what is acceptable and what isn’t. We begin to attract people to us that see what we see in ourselves.

And one day, those of us who believe we could not or never would love ourselves, can look in the mirror, smile and say to self…………I love you


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Sometimes it takes a long time for us to stop swimming against the current.

Lack of faith causes us to run our own lives, depending on self with the help of the ego. I’m not sure we were even created to do things alone. We meed others or we do it “our way”. Some of the enlightened know the truth, they rely on a higher power and share who they are and how they got here with those they trust.

We all have enlightened people in our lives. They know when to stop fighting everything and anything. It is much easier, more fun, peaceful and safer to go with the current.

Our intuition will guide us, it never fails, we will make mistakes but we learn from those experiences.

It’s all part of the human journey. Trust the path you choose.

R 😉