Hi. I’m Deb, and I am an alcoholic.
I want to continue to grow spiritually, grow my faith, and grow in the spiritual principles of The Program of AA.
For me, to “maintain” is to keep things in the same condition. And some days that is fine, not backsliding, but also not moving forward.
As for anger and resentments, oh heavens! I have wasted so much of my life replaying those in my head. The only thing that changed was my perception. I could conveniently block out my parts and put a magnifying glass on someone else’s part. And, boy! did I think it justified a drink — or twelve!
They tell me not to sweat the small stuff, and it’s all small stuff. Most of the time, that’s easy, granted. But there are times when I am not spiritually fit and anger grabs a hold of me.
Thankfully, I have people around who will call me on it, and after, I know I need to give it to HP. By the grace of God, the program of AA, and the goodness of the fellowship, I am sober today. Thank you.
Working closely with new members, or actually going to them to carry the message is what pops into most of our minds when we think of Twelve Step work. But it is only one of the many ways we can share our E,S and H.
Our primary purpose is to help the alcoholic who still suffers.But taking newcomers to their first meeting is just one of the ways to accomplish this purpose.
Some of us are good at that. We can walk into drunks’ lives, tell them our own stories with calm and clarity, and inspire them to join us at a meeting, or to seek treatment first if that’s what they need. We possess, instinctively or through experience, the right combination of tact and tough love, humility and outwardness, patience and tolerance to get the job done. Sometimes we end up sponsoring these newcomers, along with others we encounter at meetings.
~~ more in 12 step work in short order.. R
(I brought some donuts, enjoy)
I was in a meeting the other day when a guy took a newcomer chip for seven days sober. Before he sat down, he shared that he had twelve years but had gone out. He said it took almost five years to get seven days again, and that during those five years he went through hell. He lost his house again, his family and his career, and he almost lost his life. He said he knew about meetings, about the program, about the disease, but he just couldn’t muster the willingness to get sober again.